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Hashing Out People

Why do people discuss people?

Is it just for the kick one gets out of discussing the qualities one possess or, well, as it is most of the times, lacks?

Most of you will confer.

Pardon me, I prefer to differ.

In any pure discussion pertaining to people, there is a subtle thread associated with the concerns or care one has for the individual under the lens.

If you start digging deeper, in any constructive people discussion, the web of despair, which seems to be called in because you are frustrated or hurt by something they did, is closely knit with a genuine welfare and liking for the individual on the table.

To the people discussing, the person being discussed seems to be going away, you fear losing them.

It's not just that the venting up of one's anger or frustration is the goal, as it is in most of the discussions; no, there is more than meets the eye in an unbiased hashing out.

You actually love those people, which, to me, seems to grow as you go on discussing.

Though i might be wrong, but would be a darn loss if i am not.

So people, lets discuss people, constructively.

Comments

abinash said…
Well a fine tune analysis but on a counter logic does there exist something called "destructive people discussion" ? By the way can it be ever constructive or destructive when you discuss people. What can you construct and what can you destroy?
But must say its light in a new direction in the way we use to discuss about people. We all are so fond of it. And this whole (new) idea of discussion constructively while the love for them is re-enforced is quite a thought provoking thought. :()
May 14, 2008 at 1:13 AM
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